We had a meeting at school today to determine Abby’s continued eligibility for special education services, based on evaluations completed over the past couple of months. Abby has generally done well in high school for the past year and a half. She’s a good student, a hard worker, and it seems that my biggest worries about her social development (bullying, being isolated) aren’t materializing. Today’s big question was, could Abby continue to make progress without the (minimal) special education services she’s been receiving? Would educational accommodations (preferential seating, extra time on tests, etc.) be enough?
After much thoughtful discussion, including review of the testing reports, we decided that Abby would be dismissed from special ed services in March. That gives her a chance to make her way over the next month of school without sped supports, and gives us a chance to see how it goes and, importantly, see her progress report grades, before the dismissal. I feel mostly confident that she will be fine, especially with extra encouragement to connect with her teachers when she needs clarification or extra help. And, after all, this was our vision for her, that one day she would be able to succeed in a regular educational program without special education support.
Thinking about Abby being removed from special education makes me feel both proud and concerned. It’s been such a part of our lives, and her entire school career has been built around it since preschool. I don’t think she’ll fall through the cracks; enough teachers and other staff at the high school are vested in helping her succeed. We’re pushing her out of the nest a bit, but I think it’s time. And if it’s a disaster, we can always reconvene and go through the procedures to get her the supports she needs.
A tiny bit of letting go, this.